The Concept of "Acceptance"

• Sometimes you never hear people talk about "recovered" from grief. I'm not too happy with this term because it suggests that sadness is a disease that must be healed. Sadness is not an illness but a natural process and is urgently needed.

• Besides, you do not "recover" from or "forgetting" sadness. However, you "accept" it. In other words, you learn to accept it and will be forever affected by it.

• However, this fact does not mean a life of misery. Sometimes we not only heal but also grow through grief. Our life has the potential to become deeper and more meaningful after the death of a loved one.

• Acceptance takes time. You probably can not really accept the feeling your loss for several years and one day you will get a "puff-puff sorrow" for good.

Express Yourself:
Talk with people who have experienced the death of their loved ones. Ask how he can pass and whether she had been "cured" of the death. The story he might help you to understand that although grief is forever, but will be gradually reduced and life can be fun again.