The Concept of "Acceptance"

• Sometimes you never hear people talk about "recovered" from grief. I'm not too happy with this term because it suggests that sadness is a disease that must be healed. Sadness is not an illness but a natural process and is urgently needed.

• Besides, you do not "recover" from or "forgetting" sadness. However, you "accept" it. In other words, you learn to accept it and will be forever affected by it.

• However, this fact does not mean a life of misery. Sometimes we not only heal but also grow through grief. Our life has the potential to become deeper and more meaningful after the death of a loved one.

• Acceptance takes time. You probably can not really accept the feeling your loss for several years and one day you will get a "puff-puff sorrow" for good.

Express Yourself:
Talk with people who have experienced the death of their loved ones. Ask how he can pass and whether she had been "cured" of the death. The story he might help you to understand that although grief is forever, but will be gradually reduced and life can be fun again.

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Understand The Difference Between Grief and Mourning

• Sad is that you fikirkan and you feel if someone you love dies. Feelings of numbness, sadness, anger, regret, and sometimes felt relieved, all mixed into one. This is such a pain in your stomach and as there was a hole in your chest.
• Sorrow is an expression of sadness, out in any way. You grieve when you cry, talk about death, write about it, or punching a pillow.
• Every one mourn when their loved ones died. but only those who are grieving that will recover and resume their lives and to love fully again.
• Mourning was amazing. Believe me. Bereaved is very strong and only the only one who can help.

Express Yourself:

What feelings you have right now about the death? Express these feelings right now by writing or share it with someone. How do you feel now after doing a little sad?

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Tips: Making The Lucky Life

Professor Richard Wiseman of the University of Hertfordshire in England, tried to examine the things that distinguishes orang2 luck with that shit. Wiseman recruited a group of people who felt his life was always lucky, and another group whose life is always unfortunate, problematic. It was indeed a lucky person to act differently with their bad luck.

Based on the results of the claimed "scientific" is, Wiseman found four factors that distinguish those who are lucky from the unlucky. These four factors are:

1) Attitudes toward chance
People are lucky indeed more open to opportunities. They are more sensitive to the opportunity, creating good opportunities, and act when opportunity comes. How is this possible? It turns out people who are fortunate to have a more relaxed attitude and open to new experiences. They are more open to interaction with new people who are known, and create new social networks. Conversely, groups of people unlucky to have feelings and attitudes that are more tense, so closed to new possibilities. Using intuition to make decisions.

2) People who were more fortunate than the logic of relying on intuition.
Important decisions made by most of the lucky people turned out on the basis of a whisper "conscience" (intuition) rather than the brain of sophisticated things with numbers. The figures will be helpful, but the final decision of the general "good feeling". Which may be difficult for people who are unlucky, the whisper of conscience we'd be hard to hear in our brain dizzy with endless reasoning. So lucky people generally have a method to sharpen their intuition, for example through regular meditation. On a calm mental state, and a clear mind, intuition will be more accessible. And the more often used, our intuition will become more sharply.

3) Always expect good will come ..
The lucky ones who was always positive attitude towards life. Prejudiced by optimistic that good will come to him. With such a mental attitude, they are more resistant to a test that may befall them, and will be more positive in interacting with others.

4) Change a bad thing to be good
People are very good luck bad situation and turn it into goodness. For them every situation there is always a bright side. In one of his tests Prof. Wiseman asked participants to imagine is going to the bank and suddenly raided the bank armed robbers. And participants were asked to express their reactions. The reaction of groups of people unlucky general, is: "oh shit there Bener tengah2 such robbery." While the reaction of the lucky ones, for example, is: "I am lucky to be there, I could write my experience to the media and get money." Whatever the situation is just lucky lucky man continued. They were quickly able to adapt to a bad situation and turn it into a fortune.

According to Professor Richard Wiseman => secret of the lucky ones who are quite simple. He said, almost all normal people can also be lucky. Including you. Have you started to become the lucky Ready?
First, Open your Mind, and Enjoy Your Life ... ...

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THE IQ, EQ AND SQ, FROM SINGLE TO MULTIPLE INTELLIGENCES

By: AKHMAD SUDRAJAT, M. Pd.

Intelligence is one great gift from Allah to mankind and make it as one man advantage compared with other creatures. With his intelligence, human beings can continually maintain and improve their quality of life is increasingly complex, through a process of thinking and learning continuously.

In the view of psychology, real animals were given intelligence but in a very limited capacity. Therefore, to maintain its survival is instinctively more (instinctive). Based on the findings in the field of anthropology, we know that millions of years ago on this earth has ever lived creatures called dinosaurs, which is a kind of animal who are physically much larger and stronger than humans. But now they are extinct and we're only able to recognize them from fossils-fossils that are stored in a museum-specific museum. Might be, directly or indirectly, one of which caused their extinction by a factor that has limited intelligence. In this regard, human rightly grateful, although not physically so big and strong, but thanks to the intelligence that had so far man was still able to maintain the continuity of life and civilization.

So, what's the real intelligence? Actually, until recently even the experts seem to still have difficulties to find a comprehensive definition of intelligence. In this case, C.P. Chaplin (1975) gives the sense of intelligence as the ability to confront and adapt to new situations quickly and effectively. Meanwhile, Anita E. Woolfolk (1975) mengemukan that according to the old theory, the intelligence includes three terms, ie: (1) the ability to learn, (2) the overall knowledge gained, and (3) the ability to adapt to new situations or environments in general.

Indeed, initial studies on intelligence only limited ability of individuals linked with the cognitive aspects of Intellectual Intelligence or commonly called the singular, as developed by Charles Spearman (1904) with the theory of à ¢ â, ¬ Å "Two Factorà ¢ â, ¬ Â? ? her, or Thurstone (1938) with the theory à ¢ â, ¬ Å 'Primary Mental Abilitiesà ¢ â, ¬ Â? her. From this study, resulting in the grouping of human intelligence that is expressed in intelligent quotient (IQ), which is calculated based on the comparison between the level of mental ability (mental age) with age (Chronological age), range from the ability to category Ideot to Genius (Weschler in Nana Syaodih, 2005). IQ term was first introduced by Alfred Binet, a psychologist from France in the early second century 20. Later, Lewis Terman of Stanford University tried to standardize the tests developed by Binet IQ by considering the norms of the population so that hereinafter known as the Stanford-Binet test.

For years, IQ has been believed to be the standard size of intelligence, but in line with the challenges and the atmosphere of modern life that is totally complex, the size of this IQ standards and simultaneously triggered a fierce debate among academics exciting, educators, business practitioners and the public even laymen, especially when linked with the level of success or achievement in one's life.

Is Daniel Goleman (1999), one of the popularization of other types of human intelligence are regarded as important factors that could influence the achievement of a person, ie, Emotional Intelligence, which then we knew him called Emotional Quotient (EQ). Goleman suggests that emotional intelligence refers to the ability of recognizing our own feelings and the feelings of others, the ability to motivate yourself and the ability to manage emotions well in ourselves and in relationships with others.

Writer's opinion the real use of the term is not entirely appropriate EQ and impressed sterotype (latah) follows the popularity of IQ is earlier known. The use of the concept Quotient EQ is not clear in its formulation. Unlike IQ, there is clear understanding Quotient refers to the quotient between the mental age (mental age) that are generated through a rigorous psychological measurement with calendar age (age Chronological).

Apart from the à ¢ â, ¬ Å "kesalahkaprahanà ¢ â, ¬ Â? use of the term, there is one thing to be underlined from the à ¢ â, ¬ Å "the originator of the intelligence of the group along with followers emosionalà ⠢, ¬ â??, behold, the potential of individuals in the aspects à ¢ â, ¬ Å" non-intelektualà ¢ â, ¬ Â? related to attitudes, motivation, sosiabilitas, as well as aspects of à ¢ â, ¬ â € œ other emotional aspects, are the factors crucial to the achievement of a person's success.

In contrast to the intellectual intelligence (IQ), which tends to be permanent, emotional competence (EQ) was more likely to be studied and modified at anytime and by anyone who wishes to succeed or live performance.

Next Pekembangan in an effort to uncover the secrets of human intelligence is related to human nature as God's creatures. Intelelektual intelligence (IQ) and emotional intelligence (EQ) is considered still-materialistic sheer horizontal dimension (individual human beings and social beings) and have not touched the core issues concerning the nature of human life as God's creatures (the vertical dimension-the spiritual). Departing from the view that as good as any human beings with intellectual and emotional intelligence. at certain moments, through consideration of the functions of affective, cognitive, and human konatifnya will believe and accept without hesitation that there is something outside of himself a mighty force that exceeds any Court, including himself. Such appreciation by Zakiah Darajat (1970) is called a religious experience (religious experience).

Brightman (1956) explains that religious appreciation not only came to recognition for his kebaradaan, but also acknowledge Him as the source of noble values that regulates the eternal life of this great universe. Therefore, humans will be subject to and strive for full compliance with self-awareness and with delivery in the form of certain rituals, either individually or collectively, in a symbolic and tangible in the form of daily living (Abin Makmun Shamsuddin, 2003).

Scientific findings initiated by Danah Zohar and Ian Marshall, and research done by Michael Persinger in the 1990s, and research developed by VS Ramachandran in 1997 found the existence of God Spot in the human brain, which has a built-in is a spiritual center (spiritual centers), which is located between nerve and brain tissue. So also the result of research carried out by the Wolf Singer show the existence of neural processes in the human brain which is focused on uniting the business and give meaning in our life experience. A network that literally bind us together to experience life more meaningful. God Spot on there are actually human nature is the deepest (Ari Ginanjar, 2001). A Study of God Spot This in turn gave birth to the concept of Spiritual Intelligence, which is a human capacity related to the business of giving appreciation how that life is more meaningful. With the wrong term kaprahnya called Spiritual Quotient (SQ)

Long before the term was popularized Spiritual Intelligence or SQ, in 1938 Frankl has developed ideas about the meaning of life efforts. Proposed, that the meaning of life or logo must be sought by humans, that it contains the values: (1) creative value, (2) value of experience and (3) value of attitude. The meaning of life gained would make himself into a human being, one whose spiritual freedom which a man's freedom from the temptations of lust, greed, and an environment full of competition and conflict. To support the spiritual freedom demanded responsibility towards God, self and other humans. Being human is the awareness and responsibility (Sofyan S. Willis, 2005).

In Indonesia, the authors note there are two people who contributed in developing and popularizing the emotional intelligence and spiritual intelligence that is KH Abdullah Gymnastiar or known AA Gym, a famous Preachers of Pesantren Daarut Tauhiid - Bangalore with his Soul Management and Ary Ginanjar, many young entrepreneurs who are engaged in the development of human resources with Emotional Spiritual Quotient (ESQ) him.

Of thinking gave birth to one Ary Ginanjar Agustian ESQ training model that has its own patents. ESQ training concept ala Ary Ginanjar Agustian stressed about: (1) Zero Mind Process, namely an attempt to clear his thoughts back to God Spot (nature), returning to the heart and mind that is independent and free from the chains, (2) Mental Building; namely an attempt to create a format based on the thinking and emotional self-awareness (self-awareness), and according to their conscience by referring to the Five Pillars of Faith, (3) Mission Statement, Building Character and Self-Controlling; that is efforts to produce a personal toughness (personal strength) with reference to the Five Pillars of Islam, (4) Strategic Collaboration; efforts to make alliances or synergies with other people or with the social environment to realize the social responsibility of individuals, and (5) Total Action; is an attempt to build social resilience (Ari Ginanjar, 2001).

Development of thinking about emotional intelligence (EQ) and spiritual intelligences (SQ) to make proposals, and the meaning of intelligence more and more widely. Intelligence is no longer interpreted in terms of intellectual single course. According to Gardner that "a big mistake to assume that IQ is a single entity that remains, which can be measured by a test using a pencil and kertas". The result of smart thinking outlined in the book Frames of Mind .. In the book decisively to offer alternative visions and perspectives of human intelligence, which was then known by the term multiple intelligences (Multiple Intelligence) (Colin Rose and Malcolm Nicholl J., 2002).

Thanks to his intellectual intelligence, humans have been able to really explore the Moon and other space, creating an information and transportation technology that makes the world seem closer and more transparent, creating a nuclear bomb, as well as create other technology tools are super-sophisticated. But at the same time that the damage to total destruction had begun to appear. The natural environment was disturbed and not friendly anymore. Depleting the ozone layer which has caused global warming, floods and drought ensued everywhere mountains writhe and spewed hot clouds and lava. Bodily diseases previously unknown, begins to appear, such as Avian Influenza (Avian Influenza), AIDS and the types of other deadly diseases. In fact, socio-economic order into chaos because of human behavior and attitude that ignores the honesty and trust (corrupt behavior and manipulative behavior).

Humans have managed to create "giants teknologia" that can provide benefits to the interests of human life itself. But beside that, "giants teknologia" was getting ready to pounce and kill the man himself. Intellectual who is not accompanied by emotional intelligence and spiritual intelligence, seems to only yield damage and destruction for himself and his life of mankind. Thus, if indeed in the end we had to suffer the same fate as dinosaurs?

With no intention to contrast what is most important, whether intellectual, emotional intelligence or spiritual intelligence, it is better we take an eclectic selection of the three choices. By borrowing the classic philosophy of the West Java communities, namely cageur, bageur, Bener clever tour, then we can draw the conclusion that intellectual intelligence (IQ) people become cageur and clever, with emotional intelligence (EQ) people become bageur, and with spiritual intelligence ( SQ) people become Bener. That's probably a wise choice for us as individuals and as educators (prospective educators)!

As a private, one of our major tasks in life is to try to develop all the potential (nature) of humanity that we have, through the efforts of learning (learning to do, learning to know (IQ), learning to be (SQ), and learning to live together (EQ), as well as trying to improve the quality of personal self-constantly, until in the end may be obtained self-actualization and achievement of real life (real achievement ').

As educators (educators candidates), to realize himself as a professional educator and meaningful, humanitarian tasks we are trying membelajarkan the learners to be able to develop all the potential (nature) of humanity who have, through a learning process approach and meaningful (meaningful learning) ( SQ), fun (Joyful Learning) (EQ) and challenging or problematic (problematical Learning) (IQ), which in turn can produce quality human resources in Indonesia are cageur, bageur, Bener, clever tour.

In closing this paper, let us ponder the phrase from Howard Gardner that: "YOU ARE NOT SMART BUT HOW YOU HOW TO BE SMART!"

Source : sd.binamuda.net

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Opportunities In Life

In a field of lush, there are two pieces which lay the seeds of plants. Seedlings first said, "I want to grow big. I want to set akarku very deep in this soil, and menjulangkan my buds on the severity of this land. I want to spread all tunasku, to say hello spring. I want to feel the warmth of the sun, and the softness of the morning dew on the tops daunku. "

And even this first seedlings growing, more looming.

Seedlings of both murmured. "I'm afraid. If kutanamkan akarku into this land, I do not know what's going to meet down there. Is not there a very dark? And if kuteroboskan tunasku upwards, not later on the beauty of my buds will be lost? Tunasku will definitely torn. What would happen if tunasku open, and the snails are trying to eat it? And certainly, if I grow up and broke, all the children will try to mencabutku from the ground. No, it would be better if I wait until everything is safe. "

And then seeds rose to wait, in solitude.

Several weeks later, a chicken scratching the ground, find the second seed said, and ate it immediately.

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People, indeed, there's always choices in life. There's always the play-the play that we must live. However, often we are in kepesimisan, terror, doubt, vacillation and indecision, we've created yourself. We are often swayed by these reasons to not want to go, do not want to look alive. Because life is a choice, then, face it bravely. And because life is a choice, then, choose wisely.
Friends, each option is always there accompanying risk. But do not let fear, doubt and indecision, we stopped.

"Open every door of opportunity that came knocking, because, who knows, it did not knock on the door twice." (Hilman, Lupus I)

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The Problem Is A Challenges

Keep moving forward, though slowly. Because in, the state still move, you create progress. It is much better to move forward, though slowly, rather than not moving at all.

When you consider the problem as an expense, you'll probably avoid it. When you consider the problem as a challenge, you may will deal with it. However, the problem dalah gift you can receive with joy. With sharp eyes, you see the success behind every problem.

Problems are the steps to a higher power. So, face it and change it into a force to your success. Without problems, you do not deserve to enter the path to success. Even this life any problem, therefore, please take as a gift.

The greatest gift that can be given by the parent eagles on his children are not pieces of food in the morning. Nor, eraman warm on cold nights. However, when they threw the children from a high cliff. First second eagle kids think their mother was too much, screaming with fear, I'm dead!
A moment later, not death that we receive, but the authenticity itself as eagles, which fly. If you do not dare to fix the problem, you will not be a true person.

Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but the failure that you have faced, and courage that makes you keep fighting against the odds that a barrage.

What you have achieved now is a result of the small businesses that you do continuously. Success is not something that came down just like that. If you are unsure of your purpose and path, then you should have the guts to try. Perseverance is your ability to survive in the midst of pressure and adversity. Do not just stop
in the first step!

Which separates the boat to shore hope is hurricanes, waves and rocks. What separates you with success is a challenging msalah. And there he stood the test of authenticity marks. Essentially a boat is sailing through the obstacles. The essence is to work yourself to find happiness.

Do not be fooled by someone's success. Behind the glory there is always a long road that contains records perjauangan and sacrifice. Sweat and exhaustion. There's no shortcut to a success. If you are fascinated by the convenience provided by the success, you can forget the necessity to strive for it. But if you are amazed on toughness seseoarang in trying, you will absorb the energy of strength, courage and patience. There was no price discount for a success. There is a price to pay to achieve this success.

Keep to try!
Start with small things, and do not stop. Grew, learn, and develop your performance. Success is not achieved by people who started with a big thing, but by those who maintain momentum in a long time, until his work became works great.

Whatever you do, do it with kindness.
The success was not solely due to muscle strength and sharpness of mind. Your need to act with tenderness. Success is not always built on on their own efforts. Tucked behind all the achievements of sacrifice others. Only if you do it with kindness, anyone willing to sacrifice for your success.

A wise man says. "If you break the bow and arrow efflux has been leveled, it could still shoot. Aim with the entire your heart. "All the action you like a boomerang that will come back to you. When you throw it well, he'll be back in your catch. However, if you carelessly threw it, it will come to harm you. Think about how your actions today. Do it all all with a sincere and compassionate. Nothing would be sweeter than to pick fruit over good you are doing.
 

Have a positive day!

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Believe...!!! You Can Do It

Remember when you were little, and tried to learn to walk! I am sure you have something like this:

First you must learn to stand up: a process that involves the entire body, then fell back on his feet. You sometimes laughing and smiling, but on the other time you cried and grimaced as pain. Whether, as there is determination and belief in yourself that you will succeed, whatever and however. You have your inner motivations

After much practice you finally figure out how to balance yourself, a requirement for the next kejenjang. You enjoy it and it seems to have a new strength, had a new motivation. You will stand where you like - at your place, on the couch, on your lap your mother, your father, or someone else. It is an exciting time - you do it! You can control yourself. You smile and laugh funny, satisfying your success. Now - The next step - running. You see other people doing it - this keliatannya not too difficult - just move your legs when you stand up, right?

Wrong - apparently more complex than you imagine. You are dealing with frustration. But it you keep trying, trying again and trying again and again until you know how to walk. You always want to be the handle of your hands when walking.

If people see you walking, they would clap their hands, they laughed, they would be encouraging, "Oh my God, look what he's doing." "Oh my son has been able to stand". "My clever, clever my son" and others. This triggers your urge, the urge to add your self-confidence. Encouragement that motivates you

But even so, you also try running while no one sees you, when there was no cheering? Every opportunity is there, you train for running. You can not wait for someone to motivate you to take the next steps. You learn how to motivate yourself.

If we could remember these things about ourselves in today.
Remember that we can do whatever we thought. We are able to manage if we are willing and prepared to pass through the process, such as when we learn to stand, as when we learn to walk. We do not need to wait for others to motivate us, we need to motivate ourselves.

If you've forgotten how to do this, or feel like a frozen, stiff and shaky. Then you need motivation, take a short trip back in your life that has passed - Look at your achievements, no matter big or small accomplishment achievement - or times when you meet challenges and find ways to succeed. Ulanglah success this time, when you face problems you are facing.

Focus on all the things you think you can not do, then do it. Look at your baby. They never give up. And they are confident and believe in you, that you are capable and able. They believe in you all your life!

Now you must believe in yourself! Reassure your hearts that you'll be fine.
"Remember, today is the best day of your life, have a beautiful future, by making changes today!

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Keep Your Dream

Before a tree grow tall, it first had to embed their roots deep into the soil, for the sake of obtaining nutrients. Same with your dreams. If you want to dream turned into reality, you have to find ways to feed and maintain your dream.

It is not realistic to expect that you can reach the stars, without first planting roots in solid ground. Dreaming is easy - something that lives in dreamland. But make it happen in the real world requires hard struggle.

Without strong roots, even the tallest trees and encouraged - to be uprooted. Without continuous learning, being disciplined, maintain integrity, commitment, steadfastness, patience and effort - even dreams that are most likely and most severe - will be uprooted.

Dreams and goals you need maintenance. Embed this dream root your deep and wide as possible - so there is no maximum limit what bag you will reach....

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